After many years of teaching, I often find myself coming back to the same observation.
Many singers come up with the most far-fetched explanations for why they're not progressing. They think their training isn't working, that there must be some secret technique they haven't discovered yet, and they keep searching for the Holy Grail somewhere in the depths of the internet.
But the main cause I keep seeing is always the same, and it's incredibly underestimated: expecting to get every exercise right almost immediately, and assuming that if it doesn't work, it's better to try something else.
I've even had students ask me to change an exercise after trying it just twice, during their very first lesson, when you'd expect them to be at their most eager to learn!
I understand the logic. If you think vocal exercises are interchangeable, why insist on one that feels difficult? Why not simply find one that feels comfortable instead?
And it's even worse when teachers reinforce this idea by giving everyone the same standard vocal exercises and moving on to something else whenever one doesn't work.
Of course, different exercises can target the same coordination, and sometimes changing the approach can be a good choice, but there must be specific pedagogical reasons for that choice, and simply switching exercises at random without first working on them consistently certainly isn't one of them.
Clearly, we're not talking about warm-ups, which by definition are meant to prepare the vocal instrument. We're talking about exercises designed to develop new vocal coordinations to reach a particular goal.
In this case, it's not only normal, but actually desirable that you can't do them right away, because repeating what you already know how to do clearly won't teach you something new.
In fact, you should be frustrated with a teacher who never asks you to do something you can't yet do. Who never challenges you to go beyond your current abilities.
Also, struggling with a vocal exercise says absolutely nothing about how good a singer you are.
This is often the hardest part to accept, especially for experienced singers. They associate not being able to perform an exercise immediately with a judgment on their singing ability, which gives them a completely distorted picture of their abilities.
I've worked with extraordinary singers who struggled enormously with exercises that much less skilled singers found almost trivial.
The voice is incredibly complex. We all have different characteristics, different strengths and different coordinations to develop. There's always something new to explore.
But if you're unwilling to do that work because you can't put aside your judgment of yourself, if you can't give yourself permission to get things wrong in order to learn, you've built a wall that stands between you and your progress.
Remember: you cannot learn something new by continuing to do only what you already know how to do.
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